Since breaking up with my partner, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about what I’m looking for in a person. Something popped into my head this morning that had a profound effect on me….”What am I waiting for? Why do I have to wait for some other person? Why can’t I try to be the things I’m looking for?” It was like a shining light in my life to realize that if I want someone who cooks, why don’t I learn how to cook? If I want someone who is compassionate, why not be more compassionate myself? If I want someone who is fun, adventurous, easy going, funny, then I should be those things. What am I waiting for? For someone to “complete” me? I have the capability to do/be all of the things I’m looking for. It’s empowering to realize that we all have the ability to learn, adapt, grow, expand past our current understanding. I’ll keep you all posted with my first cooking class. 
Posted by: Felipe Crook | March 17, 2008
What am I waiting for?
Posted in Random Sh#@! | Tags: be the change you seek, be who you want to be, waiting for someone
This is so true, Felipe. Other people will always let us down, no matter how wonderful a person they are. Plus, there is no “perfect” person out there, as we all know. You are absolutely right that it’s best to embody those characteristics you want in yourself. Then you still have them even when that “other” may let you down.
Case in point: I always wanted to learn to play the violin well. I made friends with a couple of people who are fantastic violinists and I spent a lot of time yearning for what they had in terms of playing skill. But instead of being satisfied just hanging around them and watching them play, I decided to learn those skills myself, as much as possible. It has been so rewarding and now I feel like I have filled in a “missing piece” for myself. It also made me appreciate my piano talents more because I already have them!
By: Melissa James on March 18, 2008
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P.S. It’s also true that you attract the people you want by the way you act. Everything you listed are qualities that can attract similar people to you. I think you are in for an exciting adventure as you pursue this new way of thinking (and you’re also in for some great food with those cooking classes!)…
By: Melissa James on March 18, 2008
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That is exactly what I’m hoping for Melissa. Why not embrace what we want from someone else? It’s nice to make a decision on what you want huh?
By: Felipe on March 18, 2008
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I am so glad to hear that from you. I have been trying to tell you that for a long time. That is something each person has to learn for themselves. Once you realize that you are the person who is going to fulfill you, the hunt for a ‘perfect partner’ seems less important. And that is usually when you meet some of your best friends.
By: loveourjourney on March 19, 2008
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Felipe – You are so right on! Thanks for the reminder – I really needed it! Jan
By: Jan O on March 25, 2008
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